Unfortunately, an incident like my blog post below unfolded at my gym between two women on the treadmills. My poor friend was in between them! It was very sad and unnecessary. I created a similar coffee scene…Enjoy, or not.
I was about to tell you something important about-Instead you made a dismissive motion with your hand, and you started talking about it again. I understand you are not happy. I talk over you. I firmly drum my words,
Please let me talk. If we were having coffee, I would tell you, No. Sorry. I just don’t want to hear it today. It’s been a long two weeks. I have a lot of personal stuff to deal with. Most of it is worked out. I just want to relish in accomplishment. Please, do not yell at me about things we cannot control.
I will offer you cream, sugar, Stevia (that’s popular in my house). But, please do not talk to me about The House. I will lend you a listening, supportive ear if you want to talk about our daily lives. I want to laugh and joke with you. I do not want to spar with you.
We don’t get time like this together very often. I am not wasting my time talking to you about anger, negativity, misery, and blame.
Please, let’s talk about the good in our lives. Our goals.
You start blaming again…. I just can’t anymore.
“Enough!” You look at me with shock. This is not us.
So let’s try this again: ” Would you like cream, sugar, Stevia?”
” I said, No, my friend-”
“Sadly, I will have to show you the door.”
I heat up my coffee. I prefer my coffee plain. No cream. No sugar. Very Strong.
I look at the empty chair and my eyes well up with tears. A friendship is over because we could not follow a kindergarten rule: If you have nothing nice to say, Don’t say it.
No cream. No sugar. No friend. Strong coffee. Strong mind. Strong is enough.