Week Four Summary: Kindness. Kindness is a loaded word. The past four weeks I have examined the many layers of kindness in my life. However, EXHAUSTION is the word of this week. Yes, you are probably nodding your head with empathetic vigor.
Momming is a loaded word too. Momming is so much more than taking care of children. Momming is like smoothly directing traffic on a crumbling bridge. Are you still with me? I love Momming but I am exhausted. Are you still nodding with me?
Kindness and Momming do not always mix. Moms get so caught up in the crazy clock (my mother-in-law’s term) that the stressed out sounds of sighs and snarls replace speaking kindly, or saying everything with a hug. Do you snarl too? I do.
This week I consciously added kindness into the mix. I have not blogged as much. This week my priority was to rejuvenate the root of my kindness, my home, with rest. My household needed a nap.
Tuesday: After enjoying Memorial Day weekend, it happened. My big girl had a melt down while doing homework: crying, her head on the table. Instead of threatening, yelling, or having a tantrum myself, I spoke to her in soft tones and let her cry. She needed it. She was exhausted. We did get the homework done. I sent her to school. I worried about her all day. She was fine. I was fine. We moved on and had a busy, tear-free afternoon for the both of us.
Wednesday: The baby had not napped in three days because of the weekend activities. Instead of running with the big girl to gymnastics and snatching the baby out of the crib, followed by more tears, more rush, more yelling, I decided that we were taking a break. The baby finally napped. The big girl played on the swingset with Grandma and Grandpa. Playing outside is almost taboo these days. Spending time with grandparents is a cherished time that is often cut short by the grind. Later, the big girl, the baby, and I drew with chalk on the driveway. I chose to be kind to my kids and myself because I ignored the beckoning, shrill of the crazy clock. I chose the gentle, rejuvenating call of kindness.
Everyday: Kindness is choosing to pause and think about the world outside of our Over-Stuffed-To-Do-Lists-Head. It’s opening a door for someone. It’s slowing down the crazy clock. It’s being quiet and listening.It’s taking the time to play. Kindness is a Pause, a necessary one. Pause. Be Kind. Take a Nap. Momming will be there. Be grateful for that.