Go ahead. Ask yourself this question: “Why is everyone else allowed to be happy?”
It sounds silly and childish when I say it out loud. I asked myself this question about two years ago. I was tired of being angry with others. I was done with the arduous process of toxic friend removal. It was exhausting resenting others who were unapologetically happy, but had issues with my happiness.
There is a fine line between making a point and acting like a spoiled child. Adults turn their back on the child kicking and screaming in the grocery store. It proves a point. Some adults take the same approach when their peers experience success and joy. To some, A child’s grating screams are synonymous to listening to other’s happiness. All they want is to punish anyone whose light casts a blinding spark inside their bleak reverie.
Nobody will ever “allow” me to be happy. I can stamp my feet all I want. I can kick people out of my life until I am alone. Nothing will change, unless I reframe my thinking, and I stop searching for a Happy Allowance. Happiness is self-made. Happiness is earned. Happiness is not approval from a jealous friend or bitter coworker. How can that person sprinkle me with happiness when she has none to allow herself?
The A to Z Challenge is an opportunity for me to celebrate NOT justify who I am.
I allow myself to do just that.
you are certainly allowed happiness
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So are you! Remember that. I am excited to read your A post!
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We are in charge of our own happiness and I have been down this road as well. I have always told my kids “if you don’t love yourself, how can you love anyone else?” You gotta put yourself first 🙂
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I tell my daughter the same thing. It is very important.
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Love your first post 🙂 can’t wait for tomorrow’s letter
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Thank you! I am excited for yours!
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Thanks for visiting my blog 🙂
We are definitely allowed to be happy and it is something only we can strive for within ourselves. I do think others cannot give us happiness; they might make us happy, but it is something we have to accomplish within ourselves indeed.
betty
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I agree. It’s a challenge to find happiness. This month is all about challenges!Arizona is a happy place for me. I am looking forward to reading more. Thank you for visiting my blog!
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Well said, Dearie 🌹
I look forward to tomorrow’s letter 🍀🐰
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Thank you!
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Great post. You’re on the path.
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Thank you. That means so much!
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Great start to the challenge!
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Thank you!
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Wonderful start to the challenge! Happiness on us first!
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Ask yourself this: why are so many people not happy if they’re supposed to be?
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That is an excellent question that we may never find an answer to. It takes work to be happy. Not everyone is capable of that.
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Thats one point, but I think it’s also more complex than that (isn’t it always? Lol)
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Absolutely!
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…and away you go! 🙂
Everybody is allowed happiness!
Sometimes you gotta grab happiness by its scruffy neck, look it in the eye…and threaten it…control it…and be happy!
It’s worth a try.
Writer In Transit
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Yes. Show happiness who’s boss!
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YES! I am allowed to be happy.:-)
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Yes you are!!
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