Last week we had a huge break through. The Fabulous and Fit Mamas exercised (pun intended) their boldness. Many spoke about how they really felt about exercise the difficulty to get it done. It is cathartic to open up about an issue that we are afraid to talk about. Once we vent, our minds are clear. It clears a path for us to make changes in our lives. Raw honesty is what separates us from a Facebook, perverse utopia. I do not want the Fabulous and Fit Mamas to be uncomfortable sharing because they fear the painful, posting, judgmental noise, similar to Vonnegut’s “Harrison Bergeron”.
This week’s blog is for the Fabulous and Fit Mama Exercise Enthusiast. The Coffee-IV- driven-woman who has her workout clothes laid out, post workout meal prepared, and work out planned. She gets in her car, walks our her front door, or travels down the basement steps. Completes a workout that freaks out some of the old guys at the gym, or her husband working out in the basement. She is happy and accomplished at the end. She is already planning her next workout. Is that me? Yup. Are their Fab and Fit Mamas like me in our group? Yup. They could kick my ass with weights, running, CrossFit, Karate, CKO; you name it!
As the coach of the Fabulous and Fit Mamas, I do not feel that it is appropriate to document every workout I do, or take pictures of myself working out (if I do, they are not flattering). I encourage members to do that because my “product” is learning about other women’s fitness goals and roadblocks. Blasting about myself creates more noise than a supportive, listening environment. However, I would be remiss if I did share a deeper reason for my lack of sharing. In fact, it makes me a hypocrite because I am always encouraging the mamas to feel comfortable sharing.
As a trainer, I listen to many reasons, theories, and dissertations about why people don’t exercise. As an exercise enthusiast, I have been yelled at, mocked, ostracized because of my lifestyle. So, I just stopped talking. Ironically, fast-forward five years, I am involved in many social media platforms and I won’t shut up! I realized that anyone who enjoys bringing others down embodies my Idiot Theory (See FFM meets WOD). I have moved on but I am not blind to the cycle: some feel guilty for not exercising; therefore, others are silenced because of their passion for exercise.
Fitness enthusiasts are not always portrayed in a positive light. I will never forget a Designing Women rerun I watched many years ago on Lifetime, way before my beloved Bravo. Dixie Carter’s character decided to take up running. Her regimented character turned into a flake. She epically failed at balancing working and exercising. I felt my cheeks burning with anger at this portrayal of fit women. Fitness enthusiasts are some of the most organized and balanced people I know. Some of the best study techniques I learned were from the members of my college cross country team. Those girls were focused and could run circles around me. Literally! Some of the mamas I know who exercise religiously are so accomplished: they work, they are on committees, they are volunteers, they are amazing cooks, they are exhausting! Do I see myself as this type of woman? No. I am a work in progress. I am learning from them.
The goal I have for the Fabulous and Fit Mamas is to learn from each other. No. A mama is not bragging if she ran a half marathon. No. A mama is not a failure if she hates exercise. Both are equally honest and motivating because these mamas are unapologetically sharing who they are. No more silence etiquette. Please share your workouts. Please share your rep ranges, miles, and burpee count. Vent about your tough days when all you wanted was a donut and ate four. Let’s get fabulously-fit-down-and-dirty. I will too, only if you want me too. I am still the coach, my job is to listen and cheer you on, donuts, burpees, and all.